6 Ways To Beat Holidays Blues

 

We need to keep in mind that not everyone shares the Holiday spirit and there are some people who find this period of the year extremely difficult. While most of us look forward to reunite with our loved ones, others try to isolate themselves and stay away from the holiday madness which acts as a trigger for their depression.

As a chronic illness sufferer, I know how challenging and daunting it can be to see others parading their good cheer and merriment while you’re all under the blue. It doesn’t make you a Grinch nor a Merkel, but it certainly gets on your nerves to see everyone around you enjoying a life of happiness that you have been deprived off.

This is when the Why me? question reappears and wreaks havoc through your mind, making it more tough to pull yourself together and move forward. You’ve done with it before and thought of having it sorted. Though, somehow it pops out again and puts you on the wrong path again.

 

Fortunately there are ways to chase away the holidays blue. All you need to do is to be willing to change something and step out from under the black clouds of doom. Here are some ideas that may help you improve your spirit and pack away the Grinch:

  • Avoid self-isolation as much as possible, join a gathering or a party! Try not to roll alone into your own misery. It will only make things worse. Attend that party at work or cocktail and engage in conversation with someone you never talked to before. You may find it easier to talk to someone new who is not aware of your condition. You can even enjoy having a proper conversation non-relevant to your illness. If you were trying to avoid feeling pity for or having shallow greetings, now it’s your chance to socialize!
  • Engage in conversation, be honest about how you feel. When asked about your health, be blunt and offer honest answers. This enables you to bring more awareness about your condition and allows you to see who are those really interested in what’s going on with you.
  • Shop online for your Xmas presents. If you know that crowds tend to get you overwhelmed, why not avoid them? There are plenty of websites where you can buy your gifts! Save your energy for some other activity that you would enjoy more!
  • Travel to a new destination, if you can afford it and if your health allows it. Go explore your surroundings as much as you can. Nothing beats the excitement of revelling in anonymity while being away from home. Don’t think of it as a way to escape reality, but as a reward, a ticket to pamper yourself.
  • Create new traditions. Sometimes it is much easier to try something new or step out of your comfort zone instead of doing the same old thing that doesn’t bring you much joy. Who says you need to have a fir tree or thousands of lights shimmering on your house? If you don’t feel like doing it, ditch it and don’t feel guilty about it! Step out of the patterns and celebrate the holidays on your own pace, following your own rules. Even Santa changes the rules once in a way!
  • Cultivate gratitude for all the positive aspects of your life. Although it might not seem there is not much left for you to be thankful for, you will be surprised to see how many other things you are taking for granted. Try to make a list of the things that are still going okay in your life and focus on those. Happiness doesn’t come in bulk, it’s all made out of little moments of joy that sprinkle our life here and there.

Wishing you all Happy Holidays and a wonderful time filled with love and peace!

WHAT DOES A LYME PATIENT WANT FOR CHRISTMAS?

Have you ever wondered what’s on the Christmas wish list of a person who is chronically ill? What could he possible ask Santa for? Would his wish list look similar to yours?  Let me start by saying that the correct answer is not snow. Nor ice, nor a gift or a warm pair of socks! He doesn’t dream of any of these.

 

What a lyme sufferer really wants is to get well and leave behind this bad dream. Since getting a cure for Lyme is not a viable option (yet!), his second wish for Xmas is recognition. It may sound strange to you, since only an insider to this condition may know what that really means.

 

A lymie wants and needs recognition for his condition. It is his right to be treated with the same respect and dignity as any other human being who needs treatment and care. The last thing he needs is a stranger telling him his illness does not exist, that his symptoms are psychosomatic or to be treated as an attention seeker patient.

 

Unfortunately the lengthy process of diagnosing Lyme requires him to pass through various hoops. In order to get a proper diagnosis, he has to see an endless list of specialists, hoping that at least one of them would be Lyme literate.

 

A person infected with Lyme needs and deserves to be given and same type of care, as any cancer fighter, AIDS sufferer or any other type of autoimmune disease patients (MS, Lupus, RA, etc.) when he reveals his burden. Sadly, instead of empathy and compassion he faces raised eyebrows, closed doors, multiple misdiagnosis and even ridicule.

 

This scenario is not only happening within the doctor’s office but sometimes it occurs within his family as well, which makes it even harder to deal with. It’s no surprise that anxiety and depression come along with Lyme! It’s tough enough that he has to cope with all these symptoms caused by Lyme and the co-infections. Having to reassure others that he is not faking the symptoms is just too much!

 

I bet that it never crossed your mind that a Lyme sufferer has to worry about losing his disability income just because others believe he “doesn’t look sick” enough. Anyone dealing with an invisible illness, becomes an easy target to all sorts of acid comments or remarks which can have a negative outcome.

 

Therefore, a lyme patient is fed up of being asked if his condition is real or not. He’s tired of seeing so many doctors and not getting an answer to the questions “why his body is falling apart” or “why he is denied treatment?”

 

His illness is as real as you are! Just because your knowledge is limited, it does not mean you can label him or decide his faith. What you can do is learn, educate yourself in order to grow compassion and empathy towards those who got affected by chronic Lyme disease.

 

A lyme warrior  is done dealing with politeness and rhetorical questions coming out of ignorance or oblivion. Why a Lyme warrior and not simply a patient? What sets him apart from the rest is his incredible strength to fight for his right to treatment, as he deals on a daily basis with the burning under the skin, chronic fatigue, joint pain, flares and so on…

 

Even on a good day, which rarely happens, a Lymie has to cope with pain. Life doesn’t stop just because he got sick. Life goes on and so does he. Kids need to be cared for, meals have to be cooked, chores have to be attended, homework has to be done, etc.

 

Ask yourself if you’d be able to cope with all these and still move on with your life, before you question or  judge anyone affected by a chronic illness!